Capsule wardrobes can teach you a lot about yourself. Namely, that you don’t need a capsule wardrobe due to a significant lack of going anywhere/doing anything.
Having a social life in your 30s is weird. Case in point: Halloween. Patrick and are in this life stage where our friends all either 1) have small kids or 2) are single. The friends with kids are trick-or-treating with their little ones, the single ones are off gallivanting at bars until the wee hours. No one is planning Halloween parties, which are my favorite. They’re a happy medium between being bulldozed by candy-crazed children and having to stay up past my 11pm bedtime. (Before you ask why we didn’t plan a party ourselves, let me remind you that Patrick and I lived in a 777-sq. foot apartment until seven days ago. That’s why.) I can’t remember the last time I wore a Halloween costume, and that’s not cool.
But it’s not just that. We have a lot of great friends here in Charlotte, but we don’t have a group of friends. As in, few of our friends are friends with each other. I was so used to traveling in a pack with my sorority sisters in college, then in Teach for America, then in the middle school that I worked at here in Charlotte that this has probably been the hardest adjustment. It’s something I really, really miss. (Seriously, my heart feels heavy just typing that.) Many of our friends also have their extended families close by, which means on an average Saturday afternoon when we want to meet up they’re at their nephew’s birthday party. Or christening. Or T-ball game.
So there you have it: I get lonely sometimes. I want our social life to be amazing, and right now it’s not. I feel like we should be living it up these first few years of marriage before we have kids. I’m not quite sure how to fix it, since most of my jobs now are rather solitary (blogging, nannying) and we don’t go to church. The majority of Patrick’s colleagues are older, and they all work such long hours I don’t think they’re dying to socialize at the end of the day. Patrick’s extended family is in the area, but they don’t get together regularly. I’m stumped.
So what’s a 30-something to do? How do I find my “tribe”? I’d love your advice!
Plus, I really, really want an excuse to wear this cute athleisure outfit.
02 | Hoodie
03 | White sneakers
04 | Tote
05 | Aviators
06 | CLT hat
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